For Migraine and Headache Awareness Month, I wanted to write about prompt 14 in the 2013 Blog Challenge, which was Letters to Julia (thank someone who has helped you).
Because it’s already day 19 of the challenge, I chose to write for today’s prompt — Austin Powers, International Man of Mystery (how migraine affects my sex life). Even though I’m not sure how Austin Powers inspires thoughts of sex…
For me, these two prompts intertwine because they involve the same person: my husband of nearly 34 years. So, here we are:
I rarely thank you for your help and support over all these migraine years with me. You were always there without question to take over full-time children and household duty on nights after work or on weekends when I was in bed for two- or three-day episodes of extreme pain and vomiting, and unable to participate in life. I missed those days and family times, but at least I could count on you and know that food, fun and their father would provide stability and continuity for our children.
You didn’t complain or whine and you tried to understand, even back in the years when research and explanations basically didn’t exist. There were so many times when I didn’t tell you I had a migraine. I wanted a normal life and didn’t want to complain, but many times you could just look at me and know.
Yes, there were and are times I am angry with you and though I wouldn’t wish you a migraine, think that if you had just one, you would really understand. But all considered, I don’t know what I would have done without your support.
It’s obvious that someone who’s in bed in a dark room with an icepack on her head alternating between vomiting and lying still in a coma-like fetal position isn’t in the mood for sex.
But at other times when a moderate migraine episode makes it hard to function even though I might look well, or when I’m feeling weak and fatigued and don’t have an ounce of energy, you try to be understanding.
As hellish as living with migraine has been for me, I know it has been difficult and not fair to you, either. It’s our crazy reality.
Thank you for living it with me, helping me, and for all the great sex we haven’t missed!
June 2013, Migraine and Headache Awareness Month, is dedicated to Unmasking the Mystery of Chronic Headache Disorders. The 2013 Migraine and Headache Awareness Month Blog Challenge is a project of FightingHeadacheDisorders.com.